Dating Tips

 

Online Dating VS The Bar Scene?
Everyone is doing it! Dating online that is. More and more singles are clicking online to find romance. With a clickety click of the mouse they can getty up and go online to browse thousands of profiles of people who share the same dreams and interests as them. They can be as selective as they want to be. You'll no longer wonder if the good looking cowchick sitting at the bar is single, or clues to the cowboy's character by looking at his boots. All this information and more is available online.

Dating online saves time and money. You can spend the same amount of money in just one night at your local honkytonk, then we charge for a one year membership here at Western Match. Many singles are finding it easier to relax at home, pull up a chair and meet new and exciting people from around the world, and in the comfort of their own home. Get together with friends and browse the profiles. There's no pressure with online dating, when you're ready to connect and feel comfortable, you can make arrangements to meet your match. If you decide later you want to cancel, you're under no obligation or pressure to meet anyone.

Profile Do's

Photos
Posting a photo is an important part of your profile if you want a good response. The easiest and best way to get noticed is to post a nice photo of yourself with your personal ad. Many profiles are passed over, because there is no photo. Make sure the photo looks how you would normally look. People are generally attracted to everyday shots rather than "glamour" shots. We let you post up to five photos in your profile. If you don't know how to post a photo, that's okay, we'll help you.

Describe yourself
Point out your best qualities. Sound cheerful and confident. Think of what you'd want to know about someone and answer those questions about yourself. People are more likely to respond to your ad if they are attracted by something you've told them about you. Show. Instead of saying you "like music, movies, and restaurants," offer specific examples. Such as “I love country music”, especially the song “Looking for Love In all The Wrong Places”.

Be creative
Let your humor show. Make your ad stand out by including a special quote or describing your most intriguing feature or most memorable experiences. If you have a sense of humor, don't just say so, show it! Have fun with your ad. Pay attention to spelling and grammar. People are more likely to take your ad seriously if you've put some thought into it. Use proper punctuation and capitalization. An Ad that is WRITTEN IN ALL CAPS LOOK LIKE SHOUTING, don’t you agree?

Make the first move
Making the first move is good. If you see a member you like, send him or her a free "kiss" or "laugh liner" message. It's fun and easy to do. Don't sit around and wait for the other member to contact you first, or your potential match might just slip through your little mouse and end up on someone elses PC.

Profile Don'ts

Don't lie
Honesty can prevent disappointment for both you and your potential date. You are better off telling the truth in your ad. So don't say you're 6'1" if you're really 5'4". Don’t say you’re 30 when your really 39. You’ll be happy you told the truth from the beginning

Don't write your life history
Write enough about yourself to catch someone's attention. Don't include detailed, personal information. Surely you can write a couple of nice paragraphs about yourself

Safety

We advise that you stay on WM to correspond with new members. Scammers will try to get you to contact them immediately off the site, at places like Yahoo so they don't lose contact with you before they are caught and removed from the service.

Never include your address and phone number in your profile. If you decide you want to give out personal information in future correspondence, be sure you're giving it to someone you can trust. Get to know your match first. We recommend communicating through the Western Match mailbox.

Dating Woes

Why Didn't I hear back?
Don't fret. Sometimes members go on vacation, or take some time out. Give them a chance to get back to you. If you don't hear back from them, send another message. If that doesn't work, then move on. Hey, it happens to the best of us and online dating is no exception.

What do I say in my email?
Okay, you see a cute guy or a sexy gal, what do you do now. What can you say to grab his or her attention. Well first off, read their profile and try and find something interesting or something in common. For instance, if the member's hook line is "Looking for love in all the wrong places", you can say something like this. " Hi there!, your hook line caught my attention, that's a great song by the way". Don't write your lifes history in the first email, there will be plenty of time for that later...

Safe Dating

Browsing the profiles and contacting members at Western Match can be fun and exciting, but there are some rules to safe dating we suggest you follow. Below are a few good
tips.

Liars, cheaters and imposters certainly take advantage of cyberspace. You’ll also find them in nightclubs and offline dating services, cocktail parties and grocery stores, or even sitting across from you at your local cafй. Regardless of where you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity, but using a little caution and common sense will reduce your risk of meeting these types of individuals.

When you choose to meet your potential match, bring a friend or go on a blind date. Tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home, that is a no no. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are around. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, is often the best place to meet. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together, leave on your own and say goodnight. If you are flying in from another state or city, make arrangements to have your own hotel and car.

The great part of meeting and dating online is that you can collect information gradually and at your convenience, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship or not. You are never obligated or pressured to meet anyone. And even if you decide to arrange to meet, you always have the right to change your mind. Trust your instincts. If something appears fishy, usally it is.

Pay attention to your contact. If he or she displays aggressive anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you in anyway. Making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags and you should not ignore this behavior. You should be concerned if your date shows any of the following behavior without providing an acceptable explanation. Watch for inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc

MONEY HUNGRY INTERNET SCAMMERS

They are out there, and they want to scam you out of your money. Please don't fall victim. Here are some tips to avoid being scammed.

Are they asking you too many questions about your financial status? Nobody needs to know your finances until you have met in person many times and have established a relationship.

They will romance you and make promises for the future without ever meeting in person.

They may ask you to go into business with them.

They ask you to transfer money from your account to theirs because they are having problems with their bank account.

They may tell you they are in the millitary to gain your trust.

They want you to lend them air fare to come see you and will pay you back when they see you.

If they say they love you right away this is also a red flag. Love takes time to develop.

They will beg and plead with you for money so that you can both start your lives together.

If they are not willing to trade photos, or only send one photo, that is a red flag. Sending only one photo may be an indication that it is a phony photo. Ask to see more photos and compare them.

Anyone contacting you from overseas should be avoided. They may be Nigerian Scammers.

Stay safe and use common sense. You'll know when something doesn't appear right. Trust your senses.

TIP: It is very easy to do an IP address search from the header of a personal email. Simply right click on the header and then select properties and then the details tab. You will see the originating IP address. It is fairly accurate and useful if you want to make sure the person you are communicating with is from where they say they are.

SPOTTING MARRIED INDIVIDUALS

1. CHECK THE RING FINGER!!!
• Discoloration or indentation on ring finger-Be Wary!

2. ASK THERE VIEWS ON MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS
(Pay close attention to the answer if ...)
• He or she continually changes the story
• If they avoid certain questions that appear to make them uncomfortable (take note of their body language)

3. OFFER TO COOK DINNER AT THEIR HOME
• Won't disclose where they live
• You've never been to their home
• Continuously makes excuses as to why you can't come over
• Always wants to come to your place of residence

4. OBSERVE THE TIMES OF DAY THEY COME AROUND
• Generally comes over during the day
• Often leaves by a certain period of time
• Never spends the night
• Overly concerned about the time/constantly checking the watch
• Frequently leaves early
• Leaves abruptly when called

5. MONITOR HOW OFTEN YOUR TAKEN IN PUBLIC
• Never takes you in public - RED FLAG!
• Appears nervous, uncomfortable, distant, treats you like a friend around others when out on a date (note their body language)

6. BE MINDFUL OF THE PLACES YOU ARE TAKEN
• Hotels
• Out of town (either another state or outside the city limits within the state you reside)
• Secluded areas where you won't be seen

7. TAKE NOTE OF PUNCUALITY
• Consistently late
• Often postpones dates/something always comes up
• Cannot account for whereabouts

8. CALLS FREQUENTLY AT NIGHT
• Does not answer the phone at night
• Typically text messages at night
• Verbal conversations mostly during the day

9. MAKE A MENTAL LIST OF HOW MANY FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS, OR COWORKERS YOU HAVE MET
• Never met any family members, friends, or coworkers - ALERT!
• Avoids taking you to family gatherings & social events

10. OBSERVE CELL PHONE PATTERNS
• Another woman or man answers the phone
• Constantly steps away to talk "Business" on the phone
• Very protective of the cell phone
• Ignores incoming calls in your presence

11. MONITOR AVAILABILITY DURING HOLIDAYS
• Evades premature discussions of holiday plans
• Frequently unavailable
• Calls are brief & at odd hours

12. BE MINDFUL OF ANY UNFAMILAR SITUATIONS
• Shows up in an unfamiliar vehicle (makes excuses as to who the vehicle belongs to)

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